How would your life be different if you felt close to your partner?
Have you found yourself saying things like this?
“We can’t communicate”
“Every little thing turns into an argument”
“I miss the intimacy”
“How can I learn to trust again?”
“I’m afraid we’re drifting apart”
Falling in love is the easy part.
Building a relationship that continues to feel warm and nurturing through the years, while still allowing each of you to follow your dreams, is a challenge.
If you’re like most of my clients, you’ve already tried…
- Talking about it.
- Giving your partner “some space”.
- Ignoring the problem and hoping things will get better on their own.
You’re probably thinking (and hoping) that if you can just be patient a little longer, you can figure this out.
It’s time to stop waiting.
First there’s the thing you’re talking about – who does the dishes, how much money you’re saving, who’s family you visit for the holidays. Or maybe there’s been a break in trust, and you’re not sure how to find your way back together.
Underneath that, there’s a pattern: You ask for change, your partner backs off. You try using different words, a different tone, bringing up evidence. Your partner heads for the computer, or back to work, or to the basement. Your partner feels pressured. You feel shut out.
And finally there’s emotion. It’s at the heart of every communication. Emotion is part of those those deep questions like: Do I really matter? Am I important to you? Are you there for me? To come together again, you have to address these questions.
Good couples counseling works on all three levels. You learn communication skills to handle the immediate problem, and strategies to stop under-the-surface patterns between you. And you learn straightforward, do-able ways to talk from your heart.
What would this be like?
- No more letting problems sit for weeks or months (or years!) without addressing them
- No more keeping your real feelings to yourself
- No more feeling like you’re drifting apart
- Talking together openly and honestly
- Solving problems together, like a team
- Building a solid foundation of trust
- Finding time for a short walk, a picnic on the beach, moments of intimacy
- Sharing with each other your problems, hopes, and dreams
What if some simple tools – along with expert coaching and engaged practice – could completely change the way the two of you relate?
Who am I and how can I help?
I’m Pat LaDouceur, and since 1987 I’ve helped hundreds of couples feel closer and work together as a team. I combine decades of expertise with personal experience – I’ve been married for 20 years and am the mother of twins.
My style is compassionate and practical. Most important of all, I believe that your relationship matters. I don’t get caught up in figuring out who’s right. Instead, I draw from years of advanced training in Couples Counseling, to give you the skills and tools you need to work together and bring warmth and love back into your relationship.
Real change takes time, but most couples see a difference in the very first session. You’ll leave with…
a different understanding of the problem between you
an experience of communicating in a new and more positive way
some simple strategies you can use at home right away
It takes courage to ask for help with something as important as your relationship, and commitment to try something new. You’re relationship is worth it.
Imagine what’s possible for the two of you
Too many couples wait until it’s almost too late. NOW is the time to change a difficult or okay relationship into a great one.
It’s time for a change. Let’s chat. Contact me and we can talk about your specific situation and see if I can help.
Call +1 (510) 277-0456
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You might have some questions…
Does couples counseling work?
Here are a few comments from others who have done counseling with me…
“Pat knows a lot about relationships and helping couples negotiate tricky issues. I highly recommend her to anyone needing help with their relationship” E.
“Pat is an outstanding counselor who gets to the heart of the situation with humor and patience. She has high integrity and is constantly learning more so she can provide her clients with the best possible care.” B.
How long does couples counseling take?
That varies, depending on what you want help with and how long it’s been going on. Some probems are situational, and take only a few sessions to resolve. Others involve problems with trust, significant differences in values, or other complex issues, and can take much longer. Most couples spend between three and six months working with me on their relationship.
What methods do you use?
I have Advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Gottman Couples Therapy, and Developmental Couples Therapy. Every couple and every situation is different, so I use what works for you.
Let’s talk about what’s possible for you.
Call +1 (510) 277-0456
Text +1 (510) 68422975.
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