Are you looking for away to avoid an argument? Here’s the situation: Amy assumed that she and her husband Jeff would host a large holiday gathering in November, as they always did. Jeff, on the other hand, was hoping for some quiet time, perhaps a vacation just for just the two of them. He was
“We’re drifting apart,” Sara told me during our first meeting. Her husband, Daniel, agreed. They got along well enough, but lived more like roommates than a married couple. Here’s what helped them reconnect.
Saying ‘No’ is tricky, especially to people you care about, but the benefits are many. This outline describes when and how to say ‘No’ so you can say ‘Yes’ to the things that really matter.
Couples try to solve relationship problems by talking, not talking, changing their behavior and not changing it. Nothing, so far, has worked. Who wouldn’t be frustrated…and confused?
The trouble with arguments is that they don’t work. With some skill, though, you can learn to stop them, so you can get on with solving the real concerns. Here’s how.
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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is a research-based method of helping couples feel close and connected. This article shows a map through that territory.
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“He’s just not there,” said Maria. “I’m talking to him, but he’s not there.” Each night she felt her husband slip further away with each beer he drank. “We’re in the same room, but I feel completely alone.”
“What I do online has nothing to do with our marriage,” said Eric. His wife Jennifer disagreed. Worse, her recent discovery of his online flirtations made her doubt her own perceptions. “I’ve always been in love with my husband,” said Jennifer. “Why didn’t I notice what was going on? How could he live this double life and not let it show?”
“I didn’t think I could ever trust her again,” said David. After Gracie’s affair, this couple didn’t know if their marriage could survive the damage. “I was sure he’d never forgive me,” said Gracie.
“Kelly and I go for days without speaking,” said Jim. “No matter what I do, I can’t seem to get through to her anymore.” After five years of unsuccessful fertility treatments, their ability to communicate had been eroded by stress and disappointment.
Apologies can be tricky. But if you understand the purpose of an apology and include these three parts, apologies show compassion heal relationship stress.